The essential need of the human soul for self-fulfillment appraisal is the feeling. In order to be appreciated, we want to be liked and desired. One of the things that provides this valuableness is our perception of pleasantness.
With the encouragement of our doctors, especially the influence of social media, everyone’s perception of pleasantness began to change on one side; a weak body, a thick lip, a small nose and slanted eyes, or a fit and muscular body, smooth eyebrows and beards, well-curled hair… The belief underlying this is primarily a lack of self-confidence. Instead of liking himself as he is, the person aims to make the other person like himself. When a person looks at himself through the eyes of an ‘other’, his expectations alienated from oneselfIt is possible.
Of course, in our era, as the interaction with social media increases day by day, individuals influence each other, and as people who harmonize with a situation or behavior, a popular idea or practice becomes a ‘trend’. In fact, more than one of the people who want to follow this trend a cognitive distortion They act with the ‘herd psychology’. This is called the ‘majority effect’, the ‘herd effect’ or, more commonly, the ‘bandcar effect’ as it is used in the consumer world and in advertising. As the number of people who believe in something increases in herd psychology, other people also join the movement regardless of the reason for the increase in interest, in this form the mass grows.
Another problem that has increased in the last period is that the age of plastic surgery has decreased considerably. The great source of the underlying cause; individuals spend more than necessary time in social media, they take influencers as role models. We need to raise our children to love and appreciate themselves for who they are. And above all, love yourself as parents so that they can take you as a role model.
In this perceived world of pleasantness and aesthetics, it is not just people who want to make changes and adopt a generally accepted appearance; specialists who apply it, namely doctors, estheticians, hairdressers, etc. They have adapted to the situation in order to respond to similar demands, presumably without even being aware of it, and have become accustomed to applying precedent techniques without questioning their necessity.
Another reason is sexual fear. The feeling of wanting to be a desirable partner can feed the person’s aesthetic problems.
But does this perceived worry of pleasantness require treatment? If the person’s fear of pleasantness has reached a level that will affect his daily life, social and occupational functionality, the person should receive psychotherapy. In therapy, it will probably be a priority to discover which features you want to hide in this way, to notice their needs and personality dynamics that will cause aesthetic anxiety and to make them functional by changing them.
Let us not deny our own beauty just because others are unable or unwilling to see it. Let’s adopt ourselves. Everyone says, “How nice of you.” As we try to imitate the people he calls us, our souls become dull and our wishes decrease. Love yourself as you are.