With the arrival of the pandemic, an increase of 47% was observed in the divorce rates within the period of the pandemic, with the increase in disputes among the individuals who were confined to their homes. The pandemic has forced couples to stay together longer than usual, forcing them to stay in touch at all times. Well, if we come to the answer to the question of why divorces have increased…
In order for a marriage to be great, as psychologists we review the three main themes of marriage. These; intimacy, passion and commitment. When the concept of proximity is examined from the perspective of relevance; It aims to have a healthy connection by telling each other the events they experience during the day in a simple way, missing each other during different periods of time. During the pandemic, couples could not find anything to share because of the lack of comfort in working life from home and online. As the time spent together increased, efficient contact could not be established as the excitement decreased. The reason for this is that there is no space to miss each other.
Passion, which is another concept, is interpreted as the desire, desire and sexual satisfaction between individuals in connection. In a study conducted during the pandemic, an increase in porn viewing rates, which is a different result, was observed. With the increase in the use of social media, the habit of doing sexual activity (masturbation) alone has been gained. This reduced the desire and sexual satisfaction in the bond and caused the passion to disappear. Everyone knows that one of the building blocks of marriage is an active sex life.
Our other concept of commitment, on the other hand, means loyalty in the relationship and long-term connection satisfaction. It is the feeling of not being able to share and wondering about our partner that keeps the bonds alive for more than one time. With the monotonous life in the pandemic, couples had a hard time finding space to be jealous and curious about each other. This reduced the sense of curiosity in the middle of the couples and caused the couples to move away. The impressive word I heard from another client is ‘I don’t even worry about the messages that come to his phone anymore, that phone that I once burned to poke around is not talking about anything at the moment.’ As we can understand from here, private areas should always be left in relations…
Specialist Psychologist Elif Silav
President of TÜSİAV Mental Health
