What does psychotherapy do?

Psychotherapy cannot bring back our lost childhood. Approaches such as erasing your memory and clearing your subconscious in a single session are an attitude that mental health professionals will not display and bring along ethical violations. Psychotherapy cannot change the facts of the past, the irreversible. It is impossible to heal wounds with the help of such illusions. It is an impossible demand to achieve the fantasy of “as if you never lived” the negative memories of the past, which many injured people hope for. However, by living our truth and learning this truth after conflict, it is possible that at the adult level we will return to our emotional world, which offers us not heaven but our ability to mourn. Psychotherapy can help us in our return to our emotional world, where we can regain our lost vitality in life by restructuring/updating the memories, scenes, emotions, thoughts and sensations that have been experienced in the past but whose effect has not yet passed. The more therapists know about their client’s life, past, and present, the more they enter the client’s life and become the closer and more insightful witness of that life. For all this to happen, we need to read the story from the beginning. The famous childhood story begins to be staged slowly. Just as the roots of the tree are its source of life, it is the period in which the roots and identity develop in the first 6-7 years of human life. As Epictetus said: A man’s homeland is his childhood. Those who are abroad know the homesickness better because their lives are based on longing. Maybe we are longing for ourselves in our own country, in our own family, even within ourselves, what do you think?